Who cares what people think, right? It shouldn’t matter if people are judging you for whatever reason they see fit. All that should matter is what you think of yourself. These are the things everyone always tells you. There’s so much out there for anti-bullying… campaigns, media, movies, etc., so it should really be easy to know what to do. But, the truth is, what the mind knows isn’t always what the heart knows. Mind over matter doesn’t always work. Why am I writing about this? Well, I recently wrote about people’s assumptions about my height, but what I never discussed was their opinions on my gender. It’s one thing having a kid in a daycare (I used to work with children) ask if I’m a boy or a girl, but shouldn’t adults know better these days?
For example, while in the washroom at Best Buy a few years ago, a woman looked at me and politely said, “you know, this is the women’s room, right?” Once I assured her that I was aware, she quickly apologized and chuckled awkwardly, saying “ok, just making sure”. When I got out of the washroom and told my friend Mark what had happened, he playfully suggested possibly flashing someone who asks this in the future. Looking back, this definitely would have been an amusing option! If only I had the guts 🙂 Maybe next time! These kinds of responses are ideally what I would love to be able to do, all jokes aside. I mean, I would never want to be rude or do anything inappropriate, but I do really wish I could have that type of attitude. Being able to not care what people think seems like such a great mentality.
Another great example, although somewhat different, is how Phoebe always openly told people when she was the surrogate for her brother’s triplets, because of course, the devil-may-care what they think. She just loved seeing everyone freak out when they heard. Ah, Phoebe Buffay… my hero!