There are all sorts of different stages people go through after the end of something. Yes yes, I know I’ve talked about this kind of thing before, but clearly I have more to say 🙂 Don’t worry, this isn’t a lesson on moving on or anything… everyone’s different and no reaction or feeling is wrong. This is why, I only wanna talk about my personal experiences with it of course hehe. The reason for this post? I’ve recently been going through a long-time-coming falling-out with a former friend. After about three years of a hiatus, I finally deleted this person on Facebook yesterday. BIG step for me! Even though it has been clear for a while that this is ending, I have been holding on… this friend of mine meant a lot to me, and we had known each other since high school. Anywho, this has got me thinking a lot about closure and being able to move on from things like this. My gosh, it’s hard! Break ups, friendships ending, jobs ending… it’s all hard.
Another example: my former coworkers taking me out for lunch to say goodbye back in March when I was laid off (some of the same people I saw a few weeks ago at that picnic I wrote about). This was a pretty fun afternoon, but also sad. “Mixed feelings”, as my mom always says. After three and a half years of working with these people, it was difficult to accept that it was over. For good. Anyways, we went to a Thai place across the street, about 10 of us. Wow, the food was good! A delicious lunch, a lovely card and lovely wishes, it was a beautiful thing. So I repeat, this closure thing… not fun. I’m still no where near the acceptance phase, as they say… even though it’s already been six months. Wow, scary how fast that went!
What are your thoughts on closure? How does it change depending on the situation?