I don’t know about all of you, but I really don’t like the word ‘disabled’. Yes, the label can definitely be useful in a lot of different cases, but I still have issues with this word. Before I launch into my thoughts on all of this, I will give you the definition I got from my friend Mr. Google.
“(of a person) having a physical or mental condition that limits movements, senses, or activities”
Maybe the reason why I am not a super big fan of the word is because it implies that the person is unable to do certain things. Like, seriously? Way to make us feel like we’re inadequate. I would love to sit down and chat with the person who came up with the word hehe. I’ve always liked “differently-abled” instead. What do you guys think? Quite the different spin, wouldn’t you agree?
Example: I may not be able to feel temperatures the same way as other people, but I can figure it out with other more unique strategies. Cool way to look at it, right?
So, why am I rambling about this, you ask? Well, I ‘came out’ as someone with FD a while ago, and then I even wrote about my FD super-powers, so I guess you could say, I’m going through a new phase in my life, coming to terms with all of this in a new way? So, of course all of you get to go through it with me! Lucky you! 🙂
First came the blog outing, now what’s next? Well, I think another huge step I took was a few weeks ago when I was filling out papers at Employment Ontario. For the first time ever, I decided to check off the ‘disabled’ box! I finally realized, why shouldn’t I?! I may have FD and be “differently-abled”, but why would that be something to hide? FD is part of who I am… I am a wife, a friend, a daughter, a niece, a cousin, a blogger, a lesbian, someone who has FD, and oh so many more things. Key word here: it is a PART of me, not all of me. I think this is something I’ve been dealing with my whole life, one step at a time.
I wobble, I cough, I sometimes get dizzy, I have a g-tube, and I am also only looking for part-time work right now. These are all things I’ve tried so hard to avoid talking about. (But, seriously, with a label like “disabled”, why wouldn’t I?)
So, there it is, all out in the open. I can only hope that everyone around me can accept all of this about me! 🙂
There you have it, my latest step in FD-acceptance / openness