Have you ever had a friendship that ended in a complicated way? It sucks, right? Something may or may not have caused it, but either way, it never ended properly. Things were never solved. Definitely not because you didn’t try, definitely not because you didn’t care. It was just over.
People always say how hard breakups are. They are all over the media… movies, TV shows, even gossip magazines. You know, that stereotypical scene with the girl sitting on her couch eating ice cream in her PJ’s? Breakups really suck, but I think what people sometimes forget, is that “breaking up” with a friend can be just as hard. All the five stages of grief still apply, maybe with a few tiny tweaks. A relationship ending is definitely the loss of something… grieving is a normal result of that.
Denial – “Oh, I’m sure they’re just moody… things will be back to normal any day now!”
Anger – “I cannot believe that ***** did that to me! After everything we’ve been through!”
Bargaining – “Hmm… maybe if I explain myself or buy them a gift, all will be okay?”
Depression – “Life will never be the same again.”
Acceptance – “I am really grateful for all the good times we had together. Things ended, and I think it’s for the best.”
Oh acceptance, how lovely you sound. But, doesn’t it also seem impossible sometimes? Almost like an end that is nowhere in sight? Acceptance… closure… the ideal last step. Yes, if you’re wondering if I’m speaking from experience, you are right. Still trying to figure out how to get there. I’ve been told that writing about it can help, so that’s what I’m doing… writing for all of you of course like usual, but also writing for myself.
Closure… I would love to reach you. One day, I will… One day, I will.
How have you gotten closure before?
Totally different situation, but how could I not add this video to the post?
Rachel wants closure!